Sexual Performance Anxiety: What It Is and How to Overcome It (Part 2)

Written by: Dr Dmitry Loktionov



Time to read 3 min

Sexual performance anxiety is a common issue that affects both men and women. It can lead to a lack of confidence, relationship problems, decreased sexual satisfaction, and even a decrease in sexual desire.

In our previous discussions, we have examined its causes and effects on people. Today, we will focus on the steps that can be taken to overcome sexual performance anxiety.

Importance of Taking Steps to Overcome Sexual Performance Anxiety

It is essential to take steps to overcome sexual performance anxiety to improve one's sexual health and overall well-being. This can be achieved by developing coping strategies, seeking professional help, and improving communication and intimacy in sexual relationships.

Developing Solution Strategies

There are several coping strategies that can be developed to overcome this issue. These include communication and education, mindfulness and relaxation techniques, positive self-talk, and sexual desensitization exercises.

Communication and education involve talking about sexual performance anxiety with your partner or a healthcare provider. This can help reduce anxiety and provide a safe environment for exploring sexual issues. Education about sexual anatomy, physiology, and techniques can also help to reduce anxiety and increase confidence.

Moreover, mindfulness and relaxation techniques can help reduce anxiety and increase relaxation. You can practice deep breathing, meditation, and progressive muscle relaxation.

Positive self-talk, on the other hand, involves replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, such as "I am capable of pleasing my partner" instead of "I am not good enough." 

Lastly, you can try sexual desensitization exercises. Here, you will be gradually exposing yourself to sexual situations. This will be partnered with relaxation techniques to reduce anxiety.

Remove the pressure of “having sex” and just enjoy each other's body. Take time to explore and enjoy without focusing on an outcome such as giving your partner an orgasm or having one yourself.

Seeking Professional Help

If the solution strategies you develop with your partner are not effective, seeking professional help may be necessary. There are several types of therapy for sexual performance anxiety, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy and sex therapy.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy involves identifying negative thoughts and behaviors related to sexual performance anxiety and replacing them with positive ones. Sex therapy involves working with a therapist to explore sexual issues and develop coping strategies.

Medications for sexual dysfunction in men, like erectile dysfunction, can help. These include Viagra or Cialis. These medications help to decrease sexual performance by relaxing the blood vessels in the penis, therefore, giving you a stronger erection. Once a man sees himself with a strong erection there is a positive feedback loop that decreases anxiety in his mind allowing him to perform sexually and achieve orgasm.

However, it is essential to note that medication alone may not be effective in treating sexual performance anxiety.

Expert Tip: Before taking the little blue pill, use natural alternatives like Maca and Ginseng. Both have been proven to increase erection quality in men by promoting blood flow.

Communication and Intimacy in Sexual Relationships

Open and honest communication is essential for building intimacy and trust in any sexual relationship. You should be able to communicate openly about your sexual desires and boundaries. This will help you reduce anxiety and increase confidence. Building intimacy and trust involves spending quality time with your partner, engaging in physical touch, and expressing affection.


Sexual performance anxiety can be a challenging issue to deal with, but it is essential to take steps to overcome it. Developing coping strategies, seeking professional help, and improving communication and intimacy in sexual relationships can all help to reduce anxiety and increase confidence. If you are struggling with sexual performance anxiety, do not hesitate to seek help and take steps toward improving your sexual health and well-being.

Never let sexual performance anxiety get in the way of enjoying a fulfilling relationship. Seek sex advice and grow in connection with your partner on a deeper level.

Dr Dmitry

Dr Dmitry Loktionov - MB. BCh. OB-GYN

Dr. Dmitry is an accomplished doctor, women's health advocate, and founder of Quanna, a next-generation sexual wellness brand. With a background in Obstetrics and Gynaecology, he works towards empowering women with knowledge and improving access to holistic care.

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