Talking About Sex With Your Parents: An Empowering Guide

Written by: Quanna Experts



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Let's face it the phrase 'talking about sex with your parents' is about as comfortable as sitting on a cactus. The mere thought of discussing such a topic with the very individuals who gifted you life can make even the bravest soul break into a nervous sweat.

But it doesn't have to be. We can address the mammoth in the room with openness, respect, and perhaps a dash of humor to lighten the load.

We all know that sexual wellness and health matter but how do we communicate this with dear mom, dad, or guardian without squirming out of our skin?

In this guide, we shake off traditional taboos and invite you into a practical journey filled with valuable insights and strategies. For far too long, our society has swept such critical conversations under the rug. We stand firmly against it and promote an honest dialog about the birds and the bees.

We promise that by the end of this article, you might just find yourself prepared to have such a discussion in a mature and enlightening way with the parental figures in your life. After all, it's high time we all got comfy with the 'uncomfy'.

Welcome to your sexual health empowerment journey! 

The Importance of Open Dialogue

Discussing sex with your parents can be an intimidating prospect for many teens and young adults. However, these conversations can be an important source of reliable and trustworthy advice about sexual health and well-being. It's better to be comfortable talking about it sooner than later, irrespective of whether you're sexually active or not.

There's nothing to be ashamed of when discussing sex. In fact, open dialogue about sex is vital for breaking taboos surrounding it and ensuring you are well-informed and prepared for any potential scenarios.

Start Early

The conversation about sex doesn't have to start only after you're sexually active. It may be easier if opened beforehand. Sexual health is about more than just sex itself—it includes topics like period pain, birth control, or feelings of sexual desire. Discussing these topics early can help break down any embarrassment and make it easier to approach your parents with any issues that might arise.

Be the One to Start the Conversation

It can be nerve-wracking to bring up the subject of sex with your parents. It helps to remember that they too once had to have the same discussion with their parents and they probably felt just like you do. Your parents love you and want to help you. Knowing this will help to make it less awkward so if you bring it up first, it can make the conversation easier for everyone.

Regular Discussions

Incorporating the ‘birds and bees’ into regular conversations can help to normalize the topic and reduce any awkwardness around discussing sex. A light-hearted joke or a question about something you saw in a movie asked in a casual way can help make the subject feel less taboo. Just remember to be appropriate and respectful of your parents.

Sexual health should receive the same level of attention and respect as physical and mental health, as they all contribute to overall well-being. 

Seek Professional Advice

If you have a health concern, the best thing to do is to go to a doctor for detailed medical advice. Whether it be a gynecologist or a sexual health charity, they can provide a safe space full of resources and advice. It's good to keep your parents in the loop about your involvement with health professionals.

Specific Sexual Health Conversations

Several specific conversations about sex and sexual health can be beneficial to have with your parents.

Birth Control

If you want to start using birth control, it's important to be upfront with your parents about it. There are many reasons to use birth control that have nothing to do with sex, such as health-related issues or problems with your period.

Sexual Activity

If you're sexually active, your parents might be upset if they find out. However, most parents are willing to talk to you and are more concerned about your safety and comfort than the fact that you're having sex. After all, they want the best for you and to make sure you’re safe.

Visiting a Gynecologist or Urologist

Visiting a gynecologist for women, or urologist for men is an important part of maintaining your sexual health. If your parents are uncomfortable with this idea, it's important to reassure them that a visit to a sexual health professional does not necessarily mean you're sexually active.

Emergency Contraception

If you've had unprotected sex and need access to emergency contraception, it's important to tell your parents. They're more likely to be supportive and help you access what you need.


Starting a conversation about sex with your parents can be challenging, but it's a crucial step toward understanding and taking control of your sexual health. These conversations can help you feel more comfortable and prepared for the future, whether it's about birth control, sexual activity, or visiting a gynecologist.

Key Takeaways

  • Be open and honest with your parents about your questions and concerns.

  • Start the conversation about sex early, before you become sexually active.

  • Make discussions about sex a regular part of your conversations with your parents.

  • Don't be afraid to reach out to friends or professionals for advice.

  • Be open with your parents about specific topics like birth control, sexual activity, visiting a gynecologist, and emergency contraception.

Remember, your parents, friends, and health professionals are all resources you can use to help navigate the complex world of sexual health. And most importantly, always make sure you're comfortable and safe in any conversation or situation. 

Note: The information provided in this article is not intended to replace professional advice or the advice of parents.